Coming full circle: Once a bride, now a wife!

<p>And it came to pass... 09/11/13 was everything I dreamt it will be. I woke up that day not anxious or nervous, I was so calm it was scary.&nbsp; Everything was just as I dreamt it will be minus a few expected hiccups. We have not received our pictures yet but yup I am now Mrs N </p>
<p>On being a wife, well, no one was born a wife, it takes a man to make a woman one and so far N and myself are settling in very well. I have had to be his escort to dinner dates, listened to him breathe as he slept, cooked his meals and planned a future with him

Yeah, I will be blogging about life by his side but here are some pics from the d day!

10 days to go

There should be a rule that says don't nag the bride a month to her wedding.

I love my prince, he treated me to chocolates. He said it will calm my nerves.

My dad rocks in more ways than thousand!!!

Update

I don't know why I thought I could blog daily. Wedding planning is tiresome but on a brighter note, about 12 more days to go. Our traditional marriage is this weekend so yaay!

We also got done with our counselling sessions and I must say, we had the best counsellor ever!!! Is that a sign that I am ready for this marriage thing?

We also had our pre Wed shoot with our photographer and we loved every second of the shoot. Lots of laughter, kisses and such effortless shoots.

Looking back, I have really enjoyed these past ten or so months I have spent as the fiancee of my awesome N. From the distance to the fights to the wedding planning wahala and I can't wait to start my life as his queen.

Talking about life together, yesterday, as random as we are, we started talking about pet names for when we are married. Boo insists on calling me "mommy". Of course, I argued saaa but anyway he said yup. Then as we were talking about other random stuff, he goes like "Kowahs" and I respond "daddy" just so he will know how irritating the "mommy" thing is.... The look on his face was classic. Lol....

I love me some N!

Anyway, some pics from our pre Wed

30 days more

Don't judge me for not keeping up with my promise, when you are marrying your bestie, you got no time to blog.

By the way, we did our pre Wed shoot. Not all the shots are in but the few sneak peek he gave us were super.

I slacked on my weight loss plan so now doing the master cleanse in the hope of starting a major fruit diet for the rest of my days.

Hubby is doing good. He isn't the one with a dress he has to fit into and rock

My soulmate

My relationship with husband to be is not as a result of fate Yes, I love him more than I have ever loved anyone on earth, I miss him when I am not with him, I want to care for him, he makes me laugh so loud.... The list is endless but I did not fall in love.

Why am I displaying my lack of romantic trait here? Well, for starters, I have no followers which technically means, I have no readers ;). I believe there is no biblical basis for soulmate. God did not create one person we are supposed to find and love forever.There is no ONE person for you so once you marry someone, you work on making that person your one person.

My hubby to be is a decision not a soulmate. I decided to go on that first date with him, I decided to continue going on dates with him, I decided he was worth the effort of knowing and loving. How did I know he was the one? Is someone who loves the Lord, loves me hard, makes me laugh, has his priorities right not the one?

We often hear how people fall in love, as though they had no control over the situation so what happens when the same force tgat made you love makes you unlove? My relationship with B is not as a result of something I had no control over. No! My marriage to him is based on a daily choice to love him forever. To keep the magic of love alive daily. To love the man I chose and to make him the best he can be.

I am not going to shove the responsibility on fate. No, the responsibility is on me. I will not fall out of love, no!, I cannot fall out of love cos I willingly dived into this. This is my daily decision. Fate was not responsible for this and will not be responsible for when I decide to fail.

Somewhere between the first hello and the rest of our lives together, it is my responsibility to create my soulmate. To work with God in bringing out the best of my husband and that is something I have to do daily. Sometimes, a prayer will be enough, other times, a lot of tears and hardwork.

But I chose forever when I chose him and forever will start in 45 days when I say "I do"

Fix it or flaunt it

Yesterday, whilst taking a stroll with a friend, we passed infront of a shop with beautifully dressed mannequins. "Beautiful" we both exclaimed! I like the neck but I hate the sleeves, I said, naah the sleeve will look good on you she said. We argued for a few seconds before we both realised we were talking about two different dresses.

Two mannequins were dressed alike with the same stunning neck style. Whilst I saw the purple fitting dress with the elaborate sleeves, she saw the blue sleeveless A-line dress, yet we thought we were talking about the same thing.

You can say we both saw our personal styles. Whilst I like fitting dresses, my plus size friend prefers loose styles to hide some bulges.

In life, the person you settle for, depends on what you see. A third person may not see it as you saw it. But in the end, you are the one going to wear the dress anyway. I have always said, choose your choice and live with your choice. If possible, edit your choice.

If we had walked into the shop to make a purchase, I would still have taken the purple dress with the hope of falling in love with the hideous sleeve or probably had a seamstress restyle the sleeve.

I bet the same can be said about many of marriage choices. Every bit of them comes with a hideous sleeve and this time you gotta find a way of rocking those sleeves. So throw on a blazer, wear a statement necklace, do what works for you but distract attention from the sleeves!

Nobody is perfect, I'm not, neither is my fiance. But I guess the miracle of becoming one is letting the spotlight shine on each other's good side!!!!

Sometimes, if you can't hide the sleeve, you rock it and rock it in style. Sometimes, if you can't hide the flaw from the peering eyes of society, you make the best of the flaw. Just remember, sometimes editing a dress only ends up ruining the style!

59 days more and I'm still a relaxed bride to be. Lol

xoxo
Mrs N to be!

60 days more.... 60 reasons why!!

It's 60 days to our big day so I am going to make this post quite special. I am actually going to bare this heart of mine out and let you know why I chose B as my person so leggo.

* He gave me back my butterflies!: You know those magical feelings you get when you are in love? Well, I lost mine years ago but B brought em back.

* He has such a big heart.

* He is handsome. Not cute, I said handsome.

* He treats me like a queen

* He eats all the rubbish I cook.(sorry love)

* He is honest.

* He says I'm beautiful especially when I know I aint looking on point.

* He is generous. Sometimes to a fault.

*He gives the best hugs ever. He hugs me just the way I want to be hugged. You know the kind that says you are protected babes.

* He is always there for me even when duty calls.

* He buys me sweets and complains when I eat em. Who does that?

*He saw me in his future and told me all about it way before we were official.

*He has the most beautiful smile in the world.

*When he kisses me....

*He listens.

*He puts up with the child in me

*But somehow manages to get through to the adult in me as well.

*He thinks I should have been a super model. (well, he hasn't said that yet but that is what I think he should think)

*He laughs. Really laughs.

*He has Jesus

*He listens to my singing!

*We are able to hold private conversation in a crowd n no one will get a word.

*Its the way he cuddles...

*And tickles

*He smells sweet all the time

*He loves my hair

*He loves my dysfunctional family.

*I want kids just like him

*He loves me

*He buys me cakes

*He pampers me

*He opens doors for me. Always, all the time....

*I love him

So whilst writing this I realised, cancel all that cos I will still love him not for the above but for who he is. I will love him even if he did none of the above. I just love him cos he is someone to love a whole lot!

Deep thoughts!

*Jejely ignores the fact I've not posted here in ages*
So what is the use of me bragging that I will blog everyday till my big day when I can't even keep my eyes opened nowadays? Hmmmm

Life has been good for B and myself. Almost wrapping up with planning and counselling. Counselling sessions have been very good for us. Apart from the fact that it gives us a chance to take time off our busy schedules and actually spend some time with eachother, I have also gotten to see different sides to B these counselling period. I must admit, I am falling more in love with this dude on a daily basis. He is everything I prayed and waited for.

Of late, I have adopted the heart of thanksgiving. I have specifically decided to be thankful for everything that comes my way and that is what has kept me sane these last minute planning period.

I have also found myself becoming more prayerful. Like a man of God once said, whatever is gotten through prayer must be sustained through prayer.

In about 2 months, my name changes from Miss A to Mrs N. Sometimes, the thoughts of living and caring for a man scares me. But if I have to do one scary thing in this life, I think I will choose B as my partner for that. Simply said, I mean he is worth the packing my bags, tossing my dads last name, cooking, washing, ironing and whatever else married women do.

I will try blogging more these last few days.

Btw, I'm having bridesmaids drama! Smh! Post about that later.

xoxo,
Mrs N in the making

I'm back

I'm back!! To those who understand this I'm back! I'm back! I'm back! Im back!
I'm back! Lol... I just couldn't resist saying that one more time. You have no idea how good that feels.

Anyway, we enjoyed our bday today. September is here and is already bringing us so many good stuff!

I miss my bff for some funny reason! I miss eating banku and tilapia and suya with her. Tried eating suya once without her and I realised how awful it really tasted. See, food tastes better when shared!

My wedding was pushed a week forward so in 68 days I will be Mrs N. Boo is finally getting involved in this whole wedding planning. At least he sorted out the invites all by himself (of course I had to nag and he had to scrap his first two options) but yup baby did good. The invite looks fab! And we went to check out reception venue again. B thinks its a bit small but what does my love know about event planning.

Side note, I love how he cringes when people call him MR N! Like they are supposed to know better. Lol!

I started skipping today!! Well, don't give me that look, I have 68 days to go!!

I also finally sorted out our music play list. I only have to sort out wedding program and cake.

Talking about cakes, I don't eat wedding cakes so I'm going to meet our caterer and convince her to make our bottom tier red velvet for just boo and myself. The rest of the guests can eat that awful wedding fruit cake since my mum says its traditional and ah well, looks like one argument I am not going to win.

I must be the worst bride to be ever, its 68 days more and I have still not figured out bridesmaids dresses. Hmmmm

Happy bday baby!

I'm tired of planning a wedding! I wish I could wake up n It's my wedding day already.
Today is my boo's birthday! It's his second bday we have spent together and my first as his fiancee. Next bday will be as his wife!

80 something days to go

Weekend was awesome!
Went dress fitting with my mum and maid of honour and we loved my dress. Fitted like a glove. B wants a pic of me in the dress but I won't for 2 main reasons.
1. I'm superstitious. I believe the groom should not see the bride in the dress till the day.
2. I don't wanna lose that moment when I see the look on his face when my dad walks me down the aisle.

I loved the bonding session with my mum and maid of honour! I find it hard to believe we are preparing for my wedding and I'm getting married! Yieeee!!

Sunday was my favourite day of the weekend. (see me blogging like the weekend was five days). B and myself went for our medical review and just lazed about. I managed to get him to pose for pictures with me and I forgot I had no make up on and hair was a mess.

Talking about pictures, this bobo of mine has this serious face he does when he sees a camera. If he ruins my wedding pictures eh! Lol

I'm young, happy and in love. What else can I ask for?

Becoming US

The things we were good at before as individuals, we have become better at as a couple.

The journey to becoming us started a while ago when we started dating. Looking back, we spent so much time talking about our dreams, fears, past, future etc. It was like opening up to someone who won't judge you.

Somewhere in between there, I knew he was the one. I'm not sure if I should call him my soulmate. As soulmate implies someone who does no wrong.

In the journey to becoming us, we have loved and we have hurt. We have wronged and we have been wronged but what kept us going were the little things.

The usual Saturday afternoon dates, the laughter, the photography sessions with boo as photographer, me as model, the lazy late afternoon strolls, the fights, the cupcakes.

In the journey to becoming us, we made sure we did not lose our individuality but also nursed the things we had in common.

And in 88 or so days more, another stage will begin for us. We will see sides to eachother we never knew but I look forward to it because, if I was good as an individual, I have become better as a part of a whole!

I asked God to make it clear!

I am sitting at the hospital waiting for the results of my medical exams which I need to present at my next counselling session. As I was waiting, I whiled away the time reading bellanaija weddings. An article caught my attention. You can read the article here.

Like this bride, I met B at a time I did not need him in my life or so I thought. His presence seemed to make me even more confused than I already was then. I was not sure of his spiritual life, I was convinced he only wanted sex (like all the other guys I had met then)

Like this bride, I prayed to God to make it clear to me. I asked God for six specific signs and I got all six signs confirmed.

However, what was probably the most striking sign was, I asked God for favour from his family especially his mum even before we met because those who know me know I can be a bit extra and mummies don't really like over hyped in laws. Anyway, one day, whilst he was away and even before it was official, I met his kid sis for lunch. Whilst we were there, his mum called and she told her she was having lunch with B's girlfriend (you should have seen my face). She asked to talk to me and collected my number. We started chatting and one day she said, "I don't know you but God has placed your love in my heart. I really like you and hope you end up marrying my son". And this was all before we met!

To cut long story short, I prayed and prayed. Prayer is key if you are a young lady in waiting. Most people make the mistake of their lives because they won't pray over their choice.

A happy home is made in heaven and gained through prayers!

Stay blessed!
Mrs N in the making

A whole lot of randomness

My mind has been all over the place of late. It's like a last minute attempt to take everything in at once!!

I'm tired... Very tired! Of late I get about just five hours of sleep every night.

Caterer issue is almost sorted! Now I got two caterers to choose from. I will leave the final decision to my mum cos I don't have the energy and it seems she is a better wedding planner than I am!

My dress is in, going fitting on Saturday and I'm worried I have lost too much weight than when I was measured!

It's amazing how friendship is formed!
How strangers become totally cool friends

I'm sleepy.

Better post tonight after work!

Marriage is a big deal!

It's a BIG deal! Not like a minor big deal but a major big deal! Marriage is a BIG deal!

Okay, now that I have gotten that point accross, we can continue with the rest of this post. So I'm in the car with le boo driving to our pre marital counselling session cos marriage is a big deal.

So many things are running through my mind right now as I stare at my fine h2b (hubby to be). A wedding is just a day but it is a day that I tell the whole world that no matter what, B is the one forever! No, that doesn't scare me at all! I look forward to us growing together and learning together and turning old, wrinkled and grey!

But we all know that will require a lot of work and a whole lot of love. If I'm taking that road with B, its not cos he does no wrong but its cos I have chosen to stay for the many things he does right instead of leave for the few things he does wrong!

Ok, I'm getting emotional here but honestly B is a blessing! A blessing I am glad came my way and I'm going to cherish forever. My dad in law to be was telling me how B always was a quiet kid... Kikiki humour me! Dude is no where near quiet now but I have a gentleman for real. Have I told you he opens doors? That is what kills me kraaaaaa

Anyway, before I digress, we were on the point where marriage was a big deal and because it is, you gotta prepare well by going for counselling and getting to see different sides of your partner.

By the way, B has been gone for 3 weeks. Meaning, in three weeks my two eyes no see him. I really missed him, in a really miss him kind of way.He is back with his jokes and teasings.... My bestfriend is back! Lol

Anyway, whilst I was babbling away, we got to our destination! Later!

Xoxo,
Mrs N in the making

Bridezilla alert!

WARNING: I'm pissed!!
Pissed enough to write two posts in a day. But I don't know who I'm madder at. My mum turned wedding planner or the annoying caterer or her hubby

*deep breath* okay, so I guess I have to start from the beginning.

My mum has a caterer who caters for every party my mum organises or even sometimes makes random eatables for her. I like her food she's good.

So last month, mum tells her about the upcoming wedding and she sends us menu, cost (which was too high, I'm now realising) etc. We discuss everything and yup, in my mind caterer is sorted.

Yesterday, mum calls me only tell me Caterer is going to join her hubby in November! Really?? What happens to me? Oh I shouldn't worry, her girls will take care of everything.

Girls? So this woman wanted to charge me that crazy amount of money and leave me for her girls? Hmmmmm!! Before that sunk in, come see me go into panic mode! I know no caterer and I'm sure boo doesn't either! Gosh I was boiling!

Anyway, to cut long story short, I called a friend, a recent fab bride to give me her caterers number. Still not spoken to the caterer to finalise details cos when I called her she was at Agbogbloshie market.

Say a prayer for me... Else, I will feed my guest keleweley ooooo!

I won't be a natural hair bride!!

Natural hair brides are beautiful, stunning, unique and just awesome.

My natural hair is all that and more. But sadly, I won't be a natural hair bride!!

Basically, my reasons are very simple. Ever since we started dating, boo has seen many variations of my natural hair and very little of me rocking weaves. On the d-day, I want to surprise him by giving him a look he never imagined.

Secondly, I want a look I would not mind immortalised in pictures passed down from generation to generation and till date, I have not found a natural hair style which does that trick. If I do find, I might change my mind, if not, well!!

Thirdly, is it bad that I keep catching myself thinking about throwing in a perm somewhere in the future? Ok, its bad, replace curls with locs.

Four, my hair is at that awkward stage where it does nothing I want it to, why risk having a bad hair day at my only wedding? Nope sah!

Bottom line, hair is just hair but weddings are ones in a lifetime anyway, I will rock natural looks for both our pre wed shoot and our trad wedding. That should pacify the natural hair gods

My big brother is married!

Need I say more?

This year, so many marriages in my family and my big bro, ie, same surname and similar genes kinda bro took the lead!

My sis in law made such a regal bride

My bro looked dashing!

And I have still not figured out what I am wearing for my engagement!

Xoxo,
Mrs N in the making

95 days

And too many good news of late!

Happy days.

Can't believe I am almost married!

To the dude my friend decided not to hook me up to in 2006 but life helped me find in 2011.

Happy!!!

And my sis in law looked regal on her day. Will post pics soon

xoxo!

All because 2 people fell in love.....

Whoop whoop! Today is my big brother's traditional wedding in London! Wishing the beautiful couple lots of love and happiness! Will post pictures when I get any!

However, since dad and myself are stuck here in Ghana, we will spend the day together and discuss my own traditional wedding cos its only 97 days to my own big day and he is worried that I'm too relaxed for a bride to be! No bridezilla mode activated! Lol!

Marry a King.....

Marry an army officer and live happily like a queen forever...

Random, ordinary day!

Counting my blessings

Body inspiration

So I wanna have this body on my day and I have been slacking with my work out and diet so starting now I am on a strict diet to shed 4 inches off my waist in 98 days.

I am going to use her pic as my wall paper and depress myself enough to lose the weight. Afterall every one knows the easiest way to lose weight is to be depressed

When you say a prayer, say one for me too.

Xoxo,
Jelly

PS, so in my search for how to get the perfect waist, I came across something called the stomach vacuum. Sounds pretty easy and review looks good. So simply ,

First stand upright and place your hands on your hips…
2. Second… exhale and breathe out ALL the air in your lungs.
3. Third… expand your chest and now suck your stomach in and hold it as tight as you can. It is helpful to visualize sucking your belly button in so tight that it touches your spine.. of course it never will but this will give you the proper feeling.
4. Fourth … From here you simply hold it for a period of time before releasing and breathing back in and taking a
short break.
A good place to start is 20 seconds… Once you can do 4 or 5 sets of 20 seconds slowly work your way up to 40
seconds and then eventually 1 full minute. take approximately 1 minute break in between your stomach vacuums.

The great thing about this exercise besides the fact that it is the Most effective way to lose inches fast is the
fact that you can do it anywhere. Even if you are stuck in traffic.. You NOW have no excuses for not training
your abs and dropping some inches.

Ok will add this to the skipping, plank n crunches..... ;)

99!! Could be 66 turned upside down!

Why do men get so touchy during wedding planning? Grrr....
My dad once said a couple who don't fight during wedding planning are not in love!!
Gosh, Bread spread (that's bobo's name from now on and nope you don't need an explanation) can be so nice and when the conversation switches to wedding planning, we immediately find something to fight about.

Today's fight was over food! Of all the things to fight about! Food!!!
B wanted food for 300 people and I don't think we even know 300 people but he claims if it must be done, it must be done well.... Grrrrr!!!

Anyway, these are one of the things I love and hate about him at the same time.. He leaves no stone unturned when doing something! *applauds*

Side note, 99 is such a cool number! There is something about knowing you are not in the triple digits anymore!

99 days more to the making of Mrs N and oh I love the quote on my countdown page today!

Xoxo,
Jelly

100 days more to living life by his side!

Once upon a time, there lived a girl, she met a prince, she cooked him jollof spiced with love potion and they lived happily ever after.... Kikikiki

Well, that is not exactly how it happened but you get the drift right? I am just an ordinary girl living an EXTRAordinary life as the fiancee (gosh, do I love that word) of a gentleman and a king!!!

I have been engaged for the past six months to this amazing man and everyday has been an adventure!! And in exactly 100 days, I get to wake up by his side. Not everyone gets so lucky!!

From now till day 100, I'm going to be blogging about the making of Mrs N... Some crazy wedding planning moments, the laughter, the memories and any EXTRAordinary stuff I remember to put up...

Stay tuned and comment!

Xoxo
Jelly!!!

I heart the soldier

You know its not everyone who is lucky to find their soul mate. That person who was created just for them. I'm lucky to be part of the lucky few to find mine.....

Really, it was just in the middle of an ordinary life that love found me. I was not looking, not searching and not worried about not looking and not searching. Then, bam!, it happened. I'm not sure how I knew he was the one, I just knew. It must have been the way, he worried about me more than I worried about myself.

Now that the wedding is closer, I look at him and smile for no reason. He asks why? And I say nothing because words cannot explain how happy I am. Lucky to find such an awesome man with such a good heart. Someone who knows how to put up the child in me and challenge the adult in me.

Just recently, we went through a very horrible phase in life. I cried my heart and soul out, I dealt with pain and guilt but he never left my side for a second. He was there holding my hands when words failed us, he cracked jokes when he felt I needed to smile again. He even got me cake and then it hit me, I'm in love with the one person I am meant to love!

He met my hair!

After months of dating and loving my 18 inches Brazilian hair, I dreaded the day he will finally meet my kinks. I loved and cared for my kinks but the question was, "will he?". Too many questions run through my head as I dressed up for our date. Questions I had to wait patiently to read the look in his face for an answer.

Twist out or puff? Neat or messy? I finally pulled hair into a puff and said a little prayer to the god of beauty as I embarked on my journey to meet my heart throb.

Date was awesome, the issue of my look was deliberately avoided, except a few stares of curiousity from the boo, we were just a bunch of happy lovers.

My heart sunk with each new topic of discussion which was not about my hair. Finally, date ended. The ride home was silent. Thick unbearable silence! Many thoughts creeped through my head. Top of them being how he hates my hair! Finally we got to my date. I hopped out of the car with the speed of a deer. Hurried out before he could dare say what I thought he had been thinking. He followed me indoors and said, "don't I deserve a good night kiss?". I thought, "what for? For being such a gentleman and not telling me how awful my hair was?" He leaned over and kissed me, tentatively running his hand through the nape of my hair, flirting with each little curl tenderly. He grew bolder and run his hand through my hair, treating it like some fine silk... Between kisses he said, "it takes a passionate person to rock some kinks". Instantly, I knew I was kissing my future hubby!

Ghanaian PolitRicks!

<p>I don't listen to morning radio! If I had my own way, Ghanaian morning radio will be scrapped! In fact, why it is still allowed is probably the eight wonder of the world!</p>
<p>However, as a daily user of the public transport, trotro, my ears have been abused severally. Especially, this week. From whether Addo Dankwa has been called to the Ghanaian bar or not, to the guinea fowl and tree planting saga, to the last straw which is breaking this camel's back.... The list of the deputy ministers! Aaba!</p>
<p>Allow me to express my rather candid opinions. The guinea fowl farm on it's own is a great idea, almost applaudable! But for that amount of money, those guinea fowls better lay golden eggs. 150 billion cedis to rear akonfem? Eiiiii</p>
<p>On the other hand, the government can plan to market the akonfem business well oo... Think around, "an akonfem a day project". Like I said, just my two cent oooo</p>
<p>Oh and as to whether the NPP flag bearer has been called to the bar or not can be or not be a trivial issue depending on how you look at it. <br>
I personally think it's a disgrace to our already sinking judicial system. We allow the guy to practice for so many years only to decide he was not fit to practice? All these years? Years oh! Not weeks or months.... Years! He even rose to the position of Attorney General.. Eiii... And so you people are saying you did not know he had not been called to the bar? Really? Hmmmm</p>
<p>Finally, Victoria Hamma will soon be a deputy minister of communication? How? Well, I don't know her personally but during election 2012, I listened to her talk about setting up a sobolo factory in dansoman when elected.... Oh Ghana man, now we have sobolo to drink alongside our akonfem.

Jokes aside, how are these ministers being selected? Ablakwa, in education?

God bless our homeland Ghana and grant our leaders wisdom cos lay men like myself will be watching keenly

To his ex

Dear boyfriends ex,
I have heard your name a few times but we have never met and we might never meet. However, if by some crazy twist of fate you ever get to read this note somewhere and realise you are the one I am talking about, I will like to say a big thank you to you!.

I don't know why you had to end things with him and honestly, I don't want to know but I am grateful you did. Because by leaving, you created a space for me in his life and I have never fitted so perfectly anywhere before.

I don't know the kind of boyfriend he was to you but to me, he is the perfect fiance. I call him "my gift". And I only got this gift thanks to you.

Each time I allow myself to daydream of the future we have planned, I realise how things could have been so different if you guys had not decided to end it. You probably would have been married by now and I probably would have found someone equally as good as "the gift".

I am not writing this note to judge you or tease you but rather to say a huge thank you to you because I am here, enjoying my relationship and everything else because of you. I only hope you find yourself an awesome man and never regret letting "my gift" go.

Beyond everything else, I wish you joy and happiness because that is what I will want everyone to wish for me.You may have played a role in making him this perfect man, you may not.

Anyway, before this note ends up becoming an emotional nonsense piece... I just wanted to say thank you and wish you well.

Sincerely,
His current and his future!

I'm in love!

There is that moment when it hits you, "Im in love". You don't see it coming, you are just there chilling and then it happens! Poof, just like that, love finds you! And then you start wondering where you have been hiding all your life.

I saw it happen to my big cousin! And I had a good laugh on her account and now it has happened to me. Honestly, I have not been in love in ages. Like 5 years....

I have dated here and there, tried to love, been there done that and then poof, just like that, love found me! (That story is for another day)

Honestly, me in love is a funny side. Normal girls scribble xoxo's on their books, I do nothing, nichts! I call him buttface cos well saying babes all the time gets old. He calls me weirdo... But in our world, that is our language for "I love you" and "I love you" too.

But I'm in love. I know I am cos I am on a diet (proper post about that soon). Yes, I gave up pork for vegetables because I want to enhance my hour glass figure! Oh! Crazy little thing called love.

I know I'm in love cos Spintex traffic doesn't really annoy me anymore. (well, it does. I just cope!)

I know I'm in love cos I actually share my food and listen to his stories about his time in the military academy and learnt a few terms!

Ok,  I really know I am in love cos I actually wrote this post even though he might be reading this at this very moment! *shrug*

What I wish I knew when I was younger

In a couple of days, another birthday beckons. This time, I am not too giddy about it. More reflective and looking deeper. A lot has happened since my last birthday and I give myself a pat on the back for giving myself room to grow, to say goodbye to someone I never thought I will , to fall in love, to be loved... Quarter life was definitely a worthy crisis!

I have spent the last few days talking to younger me. Hehe... Girl should just have known a few things....So here we go!

Dear 18-25 year old me,
I'm sure you are not going to like this note but well since I still call the shots, who cares?
I look at you sometimes and I smile.. Life is still one big party huh? But you really need someone who is gonna have your back when its all done. Someone who is going to be your best friend, mentor and love. He really might not fit your status quo but if he genuinely sees the best in you, does any other thing matter?

I wish I could warn you about the dangers ahead in your search for such a man. Well, I can try.  You are going to meet #Mr. Married but my wife sucks... Lol, be tactful when dealing with him. His wife doesn't really suck. If she did, he would have left her. Never listen to his misery tales. You will thank me later when you don't end up in his bed or even worse having a messed view on marriage. Don't have long phone conversations, texts or IMs with him unless you know you wouldn't be hurt if you were his wife. Don't go on dates with him. His money isn't worth your dignity

Oh and there is going to be Mr Crazy about you but my ex won't let me go. Please clear of that one. Ex, not wife and he still can't let go? please!

There is going to be Mr I am gonna marry you even though I know nothing about you. That is recipe for danger!

Listen kid, the list is endless, but remember, no one really has your back except God. He is the only one who writes love stories with happy scenes. He will bring you a young man who thinks you are a genius, who will love your flawed self, who will adore you and make you Happy. Till then just sip on a glass of coke and watch life.

Ok, I gotta bounce. (I still use that term). Will write a better note shortly.
Love,
Older me!!

Why RLG isn't proudly ours!

I have been reading what you all have been saying about the RLG-Chris Brown saga and deliberately kept quiet about this whole issue because the issue of RLG is bigger that which girl friend beating artist they decide to dash 1 million dollars to teach us how to smoke weed.

For starters, yup I agree that the idea of a totally Ghanaian owned IT assembling firm (key word here being assembling) firm is exciting and the success of this company in the last year is enough to make any entrepreneur green with envy. But guys, tell me, which entrepreneur will fail if the government decides to buy his products and share it to the populace?
No one!!

I recently read about the launch of RLG's hope city with glee in my eyes. The architecture is lovely... Geez! I wondered which architectural firm was the genius brain behind it. Imagine my surprise when I read about OBR- a proudly Italian firm being the brain behind the architectural wonder for RLG a proudly Ghanaian firm.

Oh that is the last straw breaking this camel's back. RLG has and will never be proudly ours and for that matter, I refuse to buy any of their products.

It's just a company owned by a man who has managed to make money through the government but does not believe any good thing can come out of this country. Would it not have been lovely if this company takes a stance to use wholly made Ghanaian companies in their dealings?

How has this RLG company even given back to Ghana? Oh don't tell me about the five hundred thousand whatever they gave for Atta's funeral. That is purely a political stunt. Don't tell me about employment. How else were they expecting the products to be assembled, by robots? Oh and as for the laptop project, that is a government project, RLG is just a supplier and is making big bucks out of the project.

Now tell me, as a Ghanaian, is RLG proudly yours?

My hair, my journey

To you it's just hair
To me its part of me
The part that is most me...

To you its unruly
To me, its curly...
Does it matter that we see it differently?

To you it should be straight
To me who cares what you think
It's my hair
My journey
All me, none you!
I wear it as I want
Now can you take a seat
And watch me do me?

FROM BUBUASHIE TO SPINTEX!

If there is one thing I have learnt through this journey, it is that no one really loses their ability to be awed and that even the coldest toughest heart could be thawed by the right person with the right attitude with the right amount of love and patience....

Sometime back, I thought I will never love again. From relationship to relationship, I hopped. Never really feeling anything too special. I told myself I was too damaged, too spoiled... There, nothing in this world could ever awe me again, I had seen it all...

Then he came along, he was everything I didn't want in a man. Wrong profession, too patient and worst of all, he felt he had me figured out! He kept telling me his little theories about me which annoyed me.

But a little over a year later, I am looking at what I would have missed out. No, he isn't perfectbut then neither am I. He will never have it all together, well, neither will I. But he makes me laugh and smile for no reason. I have twinkles in my eyes and I hear I look good in his arms.

He has brought back feelings I lost four years ago. Somehow, he made me learn never to say never and everything can be done at the right price. His patience paid of.

Sometimes I think this is a dream then I realise, it really isn't. It is real.... This soldier loves me with my flaws and all. And you know what is amazing, I also realise, I DESERVE IT!!!

WAITING

I remember his smell
his smile
his kisses
How my name he hisses

His touch
His laugh
I remember
As though he never left

He comes
He leaves
He doesn't want to
Who wants to love and leave?
But he has to

I cry
I try not to
But I do...
Because he has to leave

He didn't know I would come along
He didn't plan on falling
So he swore his life to another
And I must learn to share

He dresses up
In camo and in boots
He refuses to look up
Lest he sees the tears welling up in my eyes

He chose her first
And she demands a lot
Sending him to lands far far away
And I must learn the art of kissing goodbye
And of waiting and waiting.

So I wait
With bated breath I WAIT!
I watch for the news
And wait for news

I wait...
And I WAIT
I wait for calls and for mails
I wait for my man's first love to have her share
So I WAIT

I wait
I wait for another first kiss
I wait for another hug
And I wait for another goodbye


They say I am strong cos I wait
But I really am not
I only have to DO it
Cos I fell in love with a man
Whose first love is called THE ARMY
And this army calls all the shots

They say I'M STRONG
But I really am not
I just know a little secret
The army may have my man
But I most definitely have his HEART


You all who say I'm crazy for waiting
Just don't know the thrill
Of never losing the magic of another first kiss
And of feeling the butterflies flutter in your stomach again
When your hero holds you in his arms again

                         by NAA KOWAH
                         25.02.2013




They say you have never felt true pain till you have watched the man you love leave..... Damn me for loving a soldier and loving him to bits!