Oldie but goodie

I always wondered why so many brides shed tears on their wedding day. I often wonder whether they have no fear of ruining their make up or what exactly will cause tears to roll down a bride's cheek on what is going to be the most beautiful day of her life.

Finally, I have it all figured out! The journey to the alter is not easy! It is one filled with try and error, pain, unshed tears and finally the joy of finding the one in whose eyes you see your entire future... Unlike most guests at a wedding, my attention is not drawn to the bride when I hear the traditional tune for the bridal march... There is more time to aww over her perfectly done make up and manicure. But I have only a brief second to capture the emotions on the grooms face. So whilst everyone is awwing over the bride, I stare deep into the face of man who will soon promise this woman the rest of his life. Often, I see the young man beaming with smiles and pride. Well, it is expected on this day. However, once or twice have I caught a groom wiping tears from his eyes whilst trying to smile for the camera. And these men leave me feeling a teeny weeny bit jealous of his bride. A man who is in tune with his emotions.

Growing up in the „Beema ensu“ culture, it is hard to grab a man who will openly declare his love with a quickly wiped away tear that the journey to the alter is not easy for the man as well. And nope; I am not talking about the cost involved in planning this day. I am droning on and on about the near in love experience, the heartbreaks, the pain.... you name it! I'm sure on my wedding day, I am going to make a sign of the cross before I allow the tears to flow in memory of all the potential men who could be waiting for me at the end of the aisle and go ahead to give mysekf a mental pat on the back for making a sensible decision in the end. I am going to give myself a split second to savour what led me to select the stunning young man at the end of the aisle and proudly march on to exchange marital vows with him. I am going to savour every moment of my transition from girlfriend to wife and allow my wedding day to be the day both statuses will meet. I will start my journey as a fiancee and end as a wife.

And when that day is done, I am going to lay in his arms and promise to be the best wife he can ever ask for keeping my journey to the alter at the back of my mind!

I wrote this post in March 2010 and yup, I did shed a tear on my wedding day and I burst into laughter whilst crying... Oh to be a bride!!!!