My soulmate

My relationship with husband to be is not as a result of fate Yes, I love him more than I have ever loved anyone on earth, I miss him when I am not with him, I want to care for him, he makes me laugh so loud.... The list is endless but I did not fall in love.

Why am I displaying my lack of romantic trait here? Well, for starters, I have no followers which technically means, I have no readers ;). I believe there is no biblical basis for soulmate. God did not create one person we are supposed to find and love forever.There is no ONE person for you so once you marry someone, you work on making that person your one person.

My hubby to be is a decision not a soulmate. I decided to go on that first date with him, I decided to continue going on dates with him, I decided he was worth the effort of knowing and loving. How did I know he was the one? Is someone who loves the Lord, loves me hard, makes me laugh, has his priorities right not the one?

We often hear how people fall in love, as though they had no control over the situation so what happens when the same force tgat made you love makes you unlove? My relationship with B is not as a result of something I had no control over. No! My marriage to him is based on a daily choice to love him forever. To keep the magic of love alive daily. To love the man I chose and to make him the best he can be.

I am not going to shove the responsibility on fate. No, the responsibility is on me. I will not fall out of love, no!, I cannot fall out of love cos I willingly dived into this. This is my daily decision. Fate was not responsible for this and will not be responsible for when I decide to fail.

Somewhere between the first hello and the rest of our lives together, it is my responsibility to create my soulmate. To work with God in bringing out the best of my husband and that is something I have to do daily. Sometimes, a prayer will be enough, other times, a lot of tears and hardwork.

But I chose forever when I chose him and forever will start in 45 days when I say "I do"

Fix it or flaunt it

Yesterday, whilst taking a stroll with a friend, we passed infront of a shop with beautifully dressed mannequins. "Beautiful" we both exclaimed! I like the neck but I hate the sleeves, I said, naah the sleeve will look good on you she said. We argued for a few seconds before we both realised we were talking about two different dresses.

Two mannequins were dressed alike with the same stunning neck style. Whilst I saw the purple fitting dress with the elaborate sleeves, she saw the blue sleeveless A-line dress, yet we thought we were talking about the same thing.

You can say we both saw our personal styles. Whilst I like fitting dresses, my plus size friend prefers loose styles to hide some bulges.

In life, the person you settle for, depends on what you see. A third person may not see it as you saw it. But in the end, you are the one going to wear the dress anyway. I have always said, choose your choice and live with your choice. If possible, edit your choice.

If we had walked into the shop to make a purchase, I would still have taken the purple dress with the hope of falling in love with the hideous sleeve or probably had a seamstress restyle the sleeve.

I bet the same can be said about many of marriage choices. Every bit of them comes with a hideous sleeve and this time you gotta find a way of rocking those sleeves. So throw on a blazer, wear a statement necklace, do what works for you but distract attention from the sleeves!

Nobody is perfect, I'm not, neither is my fiance. But I guess the miracle of becoming one is letting the spotlight shine on each other's good side!!!!

Sometimes, if you can't hide the sleeve, you rock it and rock it in style. Sometimes, if you can't hide the flaw from the peering eyes of society, you make the best of the flaw. Just remember, sometimes editing a dress only ends up ruining the style!

59 days more and I'm still a relaxed bride to be. Lol

xoxo
Mrs N to be!

60 days more.... 60 reasons why!!

It's 60 days to our big day so I am going to make this post quite special. I am actually going to bare this heart of mine out and let you know why I chose B as my person so leggo.

* He gave me back my butterflies!: You know those magical feelings you get when you are in love? Well, I lost mine years ago but B brought em back.

* He has such a big heart.

* He is handsome. Not cute, I said handsome.

* He treats me like a queen

* He eats all the rubbish I cook.(sorry love)

* He is honest.

* He says I'm beautiful especially when I know I aint looking on point.

* He is generous. Sometimes to a fault.

*He gives the best hugs ever. He hugs me just the way I want to be hugged. You know the kind that says you are protected babes.

* He is always there for me even when duty calls.

* He buys me sweets and complains when I eat em. Who does that?

*He saw me in his future and told me all about it way before we were official.

*He has the most beautiful smile in the world.

*When he kisses me....

*He listens.

*He puts up with the child in me

*But somehow manages to get through to the adult in me as well.

*He thinks I should have been a super model. (well, he hasn't said that yet but that is what I think he should think)

*He laughs. Really laughs.

*He has Jesus

*He listens to my singing!

*We are able to hold private conversation in a crowd n no one will get a word.

*Its the way he cuddles...

*And tickles

*He smells sweet all the time

*He loves my hair

*He loves my dysfunctional family.

*I want kids just like him

*He loves me

*He buys me cakes

*He pampers me

*He opens doors for me. Always, all the time....

*I love him

So whilst writing this I realised, cancel all that cos I will still love him not for the above but for who he is. I will love him even if he did none of the above. I just love him cos he is someone to love a whole lot!

Deep thoughts!

*Jejely ignores the fact I've not posted here in ages*
So what is the use of me bragging that I will blog everyday till my big day when I can't even keep my eyes opened nowadays? Hmmmm

Life has been good for B and myself. Almost wrapping up with planning and counselling. Counselling sessions have been very good for us. Apart from the fact that it gives us a chance to take time off our busy schedules and actually spend some time with eachother, I have also gotten to see different sides to B these counselling period. I must admit, I am falling more in love with this dude on a daily basis. He is everything I prayed and waited for.

Of late, I have adopted the heart of thanksgiving. I have specifically decided to be thankful for everything that comes my way and that is what has kept me sane these last minute planning period.

I have also found myself becoming more prayerful. Like a man of God once said, whatever is gotten through prayer must be sustained through prayer.

In about 2 months, my name changes from Miss A to Mrs N. Sometimes, the thoughts of living and caring for a man scares me. But if I have to do one scary thing in this life, I think I will choose B as my partner for that. Simply said, I mean he is worth the packing my bags, tossing my dads last name, cooking, washing, ironing and whatever else married women do.

I will try blogging more these last few days.

Btw, I'm having bridesmaids drama! Smh! Post about that later.

xoxo,
Mrs N in the making

I'm back

I'm back!! To those who understand this I'm back! I'm back! I'm back! Im back!
I'm back! Lol... I just couldn't resist saying that one more time. You have no idea how good that feels.

Anyway, we enjoyed our bday today. September is here and is already bringing us so many good stuff!

I miss my bff for some funny reason! I miss eating banku and tilapia and suya with her. Tried eating suya once without her and I realised how awful it really tasted. See, food tastes better when shared!

My wedding was pushed a week forward so in 68 days I will be Mrs N. Boo is finally getting involved in this whole wedding planning. At least he sorted out the invites all by himself (of course I had to nag and he had to scrap his first two options) but yup baby did good. The invite looks fab! And we went to check out reception venue again. B thinks its a bit small but what does my love know about event planning.

Side note, I love how he cringes when people call him MR N! Like they are supposed to know better. Lol!

I started skipping today!! Well, don't give me that look, I have 68 days to go!!

I also finally sorted out our music play list. I only have to sort out wedding program and cake.

Talking about cakes, I don't eat wedding cakes so I'm going to meet our caterer and convince her to make our bottom tier red velvet for just boo and myself. The rest of the guests can eat that awful wedding fruit cake since my mum says its traditional and ah well, looks like one argument I am not going to win.

I must be the worst bride to be ever, its 68 days more and I have still not figured out bridesmaids dresses. Hmmmm

Happy bday baby!

I'm tired of planning a wedding! I wish I could wake up n It's my wedding day already.
Today is my boo's birthday! It's his second bday we have spent together and my first as his fiancee. Next bday will be as his wife!